Sunday, December 6, 2009

My Sixteenth Date.

I originally had plans to meet him on Tuesday after work. I told him that I would call him when I finished but I ended up having to stay a lot later and then realized that I did not even remember to bring his phone number with me. So when I got home, I wrote him an e-mail to explain the situation and to apologize. He said it was no problem and we rescheduled. I met him for bubble tea. It is one of my favorite bubble tea places in the city. He said he was an amateur bubble tea drinker and asked for some guidance in ordering. I will have to admit that he was really funny. He kept me laughing for most of the evening. His sense of humor was very similar to mine. We talked about our families and laughed about their quirks and about our fathers Israeli accents. I actually had a really great time. I couldn't tell if he was successful because he explained what he did and I have no idea if its a 20K a year type of job or a 200K a year type of job cause I had never really heard of it before. Not that I am a gold digger (cause I am quite financially independent) but there is a significant difference between 20 and 200. The only real issue was that I was not really attracted to him. I kept thinking the whole time that it was such a shame that there was no chemistry and I kept thinking about who I could set him up with so that such a good guy would not go to waste! It's not that he was bad looking, he was a good height and weight, dressed well, had good hair and pretty good features, its just that I didn't find him attractive. I couldn't picture kissing him (its my secret test of attraction... can I picture myself kissing him with out barfing a little). He didn't pass that test. He paid for our tea and walked me to my car. We hugged goodbye. He asked me for my number and I told him that I do not like to give it out. I was thinking that maybe I should give it to him cause he would be an awesome funny friend but then decided not to. He emailed me the next day asking for a second date. I figure I have noting to lose so I agreed to go out one more time, after all, I did have a good time and who knows maybe I will hook him up with one of my friends or maybe he will become a great friend!

5 comments:

  1. If you don't consider him dating material, you should be honest and tell him up front instead of going on another "date" with him so he isn't led on about where it could be going. Be fair to him.

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  2. You might surprise yourself - almost every guy I've ever had a long-term relationship with I wasn't attracted to him immediately. Maybe because I was focusing more on our personalities matching and not being able to go there in my mind sexually. But once I got together with these guys, there was awesome chemistry!

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  3. http://jaggard.blogspot.com/2009/11/shes-hotter-than-you-think.html

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  4. I envy the way that you can talk about your dates. I have a blog about dating, but it's not anonymous. I'm just bursting to give those kinds of details!! I can relate. When do you "know" about the chemistry? If I'm not sure, I'll make a second date. But in a year of online dating, I've never had the "zoom" that I think one should feel. It's so confusing.

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