Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Update 42

Happy New Year!!!!

I'm back from Florida and back to the cold and back to work :( In a few days it will be 5 full months that we are together and 6 months on Valentine's day!!!
My bf is still in Florida and will remain there for most of the winter with his mom. It is not as difficult as I thought it would be and we are talking a lot on the phone and he is catching up on all the work that he didn't do while I was there. He is coming home for a bit to see me end of January and I am sooo excited!
Florida was awesome. Our moms got along fabulously and all four of us had a great time. My mom was so impressed with his cooking, she has been talking about it to everyone, lol. We did some shopping, ate out alot and swam and sat by the pool and just enjoyed the weather. We also went to visit my moms mom, who lives in Florida in the winter too. She made all four of us lunch and although I was nervous about it, it went very well. She wasn't too annoying and didn't say anything inappropriate like "when are you two getting married? I am getting older and I want to know that all my granddaughters are well taken care of. For all you know I could die very soon and miss the wedding!" His mom and I got along great which is something that means the world to me after what I went through with my ex finance's mother. And he got along great with my mom which also means so much to me after how she felt about my non Jewish ex.
We had one interesting argument while I was there. He said that the one thing he will not give up even when we have kids is bacon. I said that he could eat it but not in our house or in front of our children. He said that was very hypocritical and he had no intension of living like a hypocrite. He is usually so easy going and so I was shocked that he would be stuck on such a dumb thing like the three times a year he likes to make bacon at home. I'm not sure how it ended but i think something about his own bacon pan that he can use in the garage, lol!!!
I was a bit irritated because one of the reasons I wanted to marry Jewish was to avoid things like this and it just shows me that there will still be religion issues even if I marry a Jewish person.

I spoke to my ex again. He seems lost. He said something about quiting his job and going to Bali to surf. I feel sad for him. He says he is fine and that he is excited for some adventure but I know lost when I hear it and he is definitely seeking something by making all these changes. He sounded very "eat, pray, love" to me. But it not my problem and I didn't try to help him or solve anything for him. I listened for a bit and then told him that I had to go because I was with my best friend watching Desperate Housewives. If you would have told me 6 months ago that one day watching TV would be more important then talking to him I would have told you that you were crazy. I can't believe how much my feelings changed. I am so indifferent to him. I feel nothing. I wish him the best cause he is a great guy but his life has no effect on mine what-so-ever, which is weird cause there was a time when everything he did and said directly effected my life.
I am so excited to move forward in the relationship that I am in. We have already talked about marriage and children and where we would live etc. It is so amazing to be in a relationship that doesn't have you constantly questioning "is this right for me". It feels right and I have no reason to question it.
The winter is going to be hard cause he is not here but so far so good. One week down and like 10 more to go :(
I think I am being a good sport about it and we will visit back and forth and hopefully the winter will fly by and he will come back home soon! I miss him and I am counting down til his visit in a few weeks.
Thats all I can think of now! I hope everyone had an awesome new years and Hanukkah and Christmas!